Most websites covering bullying give advice about what to do about the playground bully, like avoiding the bully but they don't give much advice to actually stop the school bully nor address the reasons behind the bullying. You can't go through school life hiding from bullies and being constantly scared. This just avoids the issue it doesn't put a stop to it.

This is a diet website and overweight children suffer from a wide range of bullying from name calling, to physical attack, nasty text messages and even posts being put on websites. However, small children, children from ethnic and religious backgrounds also suffer racial or religious bullying and you may find this advice of some help.

Children who suffer from bullying are normally isolated, vulnerable, different in some way to other children, often have poor social skills and normally physically incapable of fighting back.

The school bully or bullies are likely to be physically stronger than most of their peers and popular amongst their classmates albeit for the wrong reasons. Most bullies, however are psychologically flawed in some way. They may feel inadequate about their family background, they may realise they are not as bright as other children, they may be being bullied by a parent or older brother, they may be questioning their sexuality, whatever it is, they will have a chink in their armour.

If they are part of a gang that is doing the bullying, most bullies are nothing without their friends to back them up. Most are spineless and fear anything or anyone that might exploit their own weaknesses.

If you are being bullied at school you should tell your teacher, tell your parents but tell them how you want them to handle the problem.

If you are overweight and being bullied at school, you have an easier solution than most other children who are being bullied. Children who are bullied because of the colour of their skin, religious background or small stature cannot change nor should they. You can choose to lose weight, take physical exercise and get your parents to enrol you in a judo club. Losing weight and building muscle along with the skills you will learn at judo will build your confidence and self esteem. This does not mean you then go and beat the hell out of your antagonisers as much as you would like to. In fact there are far better ways of getting back at these nasty, slimy little people without stooping to their level.

These little buckets of slime bully other children because they are able to; it might be the only thing they are capable of. It makes them feel tough and powerful because their tiny little minds have already grasped that when they leave school for the last time they are never going to amount to anything in life. Being the school bully is going to be the highest position they will ever achieve in life and they know that when they walk through the school gates for the last time, they are going to join the lowest rung of society and stay there.

You on the other hand are going to make something of your life. You are going to take this tough training that you are being put through and put it to good use. From time to time, you will meet people who are in a position to bully you at work and you will know exactly how to deal with these social scum and this is how.

All bullies want a reaction from you. This might be cowering, flinching, crying, pleading or running away. You can normally determine what reaction they really want because they often stop having achieved it. Try not to react and if possible just walk calmly away.

If you find yourself in a confrontational situation, look the bully squarely in the eyes, smile, shake your head as if you are dismissing them as nothing of any importance and walk away. Always try and avoid confrontation by remaining confident and calm.

Bullies often pick on other children because they feel inferior in some way. This may be because they know you are more intelligent or come from a better social background.

Bullies are usually slow witted and stupid and their biggest fear is being laughed at by their friends. If they become the subject of ridicule they lose face and that is the last thing they want. You may not be able to beat them physically but mentally you can leave them standing.

Rehearse some witty one liners that are not necessarily aimed at the main bully but are likely to make his or her friends laugh. This can often diffuse the situation and even turn the bullies attention to the people who are laughing. Walk away.

If the bully says "What did you mean by that?" you say. "If you get it, it doesn't need explaining, if you need it explained you will never understand it." Walk away.

Keep your teacher and parents informed of all bullying incidents and tell them how you wish the problem to be dealt with. Remember that this is your problem.

Now you need to start gaining the upper hand. Remember that you are brighter, more intelligent and better than these bullies in almost every respect. Walk tall, hold you head up and hold your body in a confident manner at all times. School is a short period in your life and one day you will be driving a nice shiny car and see these bullies standing at bus stops in the rain or driving around in beat up old bangers because this all they have to look forward to. Visualise this in your mind.

You are going to have everything you want out of life and they are going to have nothing. Visualise this.

You are going to have the big house and they will end up in some grotty rented little bed-sit. Visualise their miserable meaningless insignificant little lives.

You are going to have a great job or even their own business and one day they are going to come for a job interview with you for some menial, unimportant badly pay job because they need to pay the rent on the grotty little bed sit that they will go home to every night.

Now if you have taken all this on board and have the confidence; if you see one of your tormentors on their own at any time; walk up to them and ask them why they are picking on you.

Bullies are usually useless on their own, they don't like being confronted and being asked questions that are likely to make them feel uncomfortable. Don't be confrontational, just sk them why they do it. Ask them if they have any idea how it makes you feel. Ask them what kind of pleasure they get from bullying and tormenting you and ask them to stop. If they agree; ask them if they will give their word of honour to stop and shake their hand and hold it whilst looking them squarely in the eyes. They will have no option but to give their word. Thank them and then walk away.

Repeat this process every time you see one of your tormentors on their own. If the first person you speak to is one of the main antagonisers, they will most likely stop the others. If they are just one of the crowd, they will most likely just drop away from the bullying but you can whittle the gang down until the main antagoniser realises that they are losing support.

You will find a lot more information about bullying on the forum.