You can't see it or hold it in your hand yet love can be the most painful experience most of us will ever encounter. Love problems can be even more painful than losing a partner through death. Strange as this may be, rejection and knowing that the person you love no longer loves you can hurt more than losing them in death. Everyday thousands of women split up with their boyfriend or discover their husband has been unfaithful. It can cut like a knife yet trying to hold on is like trying to hold water in a clenched fist; the tighter you squeeze, the faster it slips through your fingers. I can advise you about your love and relationship problems.

LOVE PROBLEMS ADVICE

The first thing to do is step back and assess the situation. Is the person you love really the right person for you. I will know - text me. As explained earlier, the tighter you try to hold on, the more likely he will slip through your fingers. Sometimes you need to take a break and look at a relationship from outside and from a different perspective. It always feels as if you will never love again but is this relationship better than the last? Was your last relationship better then the one before? The truth is - we all learn to love again and I can tell you who and how. In the end, the only important thing is love.

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM HELP

Many couples having relationship problems tend to point the finger of blame at each other. Quite often, neither party is wholly to blame because the problems come through circumstances beyond their control. These problems can be money, psychological, work concerns, interference from people outside the relationship and deep seated notions that can go all the way back to childhood. Why is your partner irritable, irrational, drinking too much, taking drugs, being unfaithful or any number of things that appear to have no basis? The problem may be the drink or drugs or any other cause of the relationship problem but it is the cause that needs to be overcome before you can address the problem. I can help.

NO SEX

And now we get down to the nitty-gritty of relationships where no sex is taking place. Strange thing sex; it does strange things to us and we all get different and inexplicable feelings from it. Many of us confuse sex with love when really the two have little in common. They just meet at the beginning and end or the foreplay and climax. Making love and having sex are not the same thing and often one partner will need to make love whilst the other just needs a damned good shag. In between we have lust, desire, domination, submission and the biggest sexual organ that we own, which is our brain, runs out of control and takes us on a journey and places that sometimes we feel we shouldn't go.

Some people feel guilt, others dirty, others sheer ecstasy and some feel nothing or very little at all. Problems can arise from a religious upbringing and being told that sex is a sin, being abused as a child, being rejected, or feeling unattractive. You need to understand your partner and you need to understand yourself. Many couples, even after years of marriage find it difficult to discuss sex between each other. I can help.