ONLINE DATING FIRST DATES
Advice, tips and information for females. Safety advice on meeting someone you have met over the Internet. Please feel free to explore this dating site and take onboard our advice and information.
- Read our safety tips, protection and Scams sections. You will find the information invaluable.
- Always obtain a home telephone number and if applicable, a work number too and call the person you are meeting to confirm your date. Get their mobile number as well in case of emergencies. Never ever stand someone up. Be cautious of anyone who may only wish to provide a mobile number. Are they who they say they are? Are they married? Are they trying to protect their anonymity?
- Providing you have been honest in your profile, the person you are meeting has agreed to a date because they like the way you look, like your profile and if you have spoken online or on the telephone, they like the way you sound.
- Try and make your first meeting a lunchtime rendez-vous. This allows both parties an exit time frame to get back to work or pick up the children. Lunchtimes are also more relaxed, less pressurised, less expensive and you get to meet someone under more normal circumstances.
- What you wear says a lot about you. You can be sexy and feminine without dressing like a hooker. Wear something that is comfortable but makes you feel good about yourself.
- The man you are meeting is most likely going to be nervous. Will you like him? Will he remember his witty one-liners? Does he look OK? Will you find him attractive? Will you show up?
- Memorise his profile or take it with you, so that you can ask the right questions and discuss his interests. If it says he likes travel, ask him where he has been and ask him questions about the places he has visited. This is a great way to get to know the person, as they should be in their comfort zone. It is also a good way to find out if they have exaggerated or lied and if they have; what else have they lied about.
- At some point, if you like him, you may be hoping that he asks you out for a second date. Custom normally decrees that the man should do the asking. However, if you believe you are receiving the right signals, there is nothing to stop you putting him out of his misery and asking him yourself.
- He might have mentioned he likes a certain type of food or film genre and you can ask him if he has tried a certain restaurant or seen a film that is currently showing. This can provide him with the opportunity to ask you for a second date.
- Remember that most men are dreadful at reading feminine signs. If he is nervous or lacks confidence, he may not realise that you like him and find him attractive. Take into consideration that no one likes rejection and if you have not let him know the impression he has made, he may let the opportunity slip away, rather than be rejected.
- Small flattering remarks about how he looks, what he is wearing, laughing at his jokes can all help. Be subtle, eye contact is important, body language will help, even if he does not realise why, so lean forward when he speaks.
- If, on the other hand, you do not feel comfortable with your date, don't do any of the above.
- Arrange for a colleague to ring you on your mobile within 20 minutes of your date starting and tell you that you are needed back at work or some other excuse. If the date is not going as planned and you can make your excuses and leave. If things are going well, you can tell your colleague that the problem can wait until you get back.
- Your date will most likely realise that this is prearranged but it allows them the grace to save face or will give your date a clear indication that you are interested in him.
DEALING WITH REJECTION
- We have all suffered rejection in the past and it didn't kill us. In fact, whilst you are reading this, thousands of people are being told by their partners that they "want a divorce" or they "have met someone new" or they are "moving out".
- At the same time, thousands of people are meeting the new love of their life and wondering what they saw in the last guy in the first place. The fact is, we all move on to better things.
- If you don't get that second or third call, don't take it personally. We all meet people that we are not attracted to or even take an instant dislike to. They might be the nicest person in the world, but something in their chemistry doesn't sit right with us.
- It's not the first time and it won't be your last, but the next guy will be different.
- Have a laugh about it, look forward to the next new date and keep your self esteem up by focusing on your positive attributes.
- Men love women that come in all shapes and sizes, tall, short, slim, fat and women with different personalities, vivacious, witty, quiet, strong and calm. So long as you fit one of these descriptions, you will find someone who is just looking for someone to love and will love him in return.
- So whilst you are looking, just enjoy yourself.
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